I’ve always been the kind of person to run away from my problems; the kind to always hide whenever I get the sense that something in my life is about to drastically change. I would lock myself in my room, turn off my phone, hide under the covers and wait for it all to go away. Once I snap myself out of it, I would fall into a state of depression and complain that my life sucked. Along with that, I began to hate myself for acting like such a coward. I knew that I needed to get out and do something. Heck, I really wanted to, but I never got the courage to just fuck it and get out there. It all seemed too scary for me.
When a guy would show interest in me, I would run away, stop replying to his texts and block him out of my life for months, sometimes even forever. When a job opportunity would come up, I would over think so far into the future that I would end up running away and telling them no.
The Safety Net
People would always pull me behind them because they knew that I was always too afraid, too self-conscious, or too shy to go up front. When I was in high school, I was the shy and fearful one. However, once I peeked out of my comfort zone when I went to college…BOOM! Hello! I was out and about. Though I was still a little bit insecure, I was out there. When I graduated and started my job hunt, that’s when reality hit me. I ran back into my little safety net to hide away for all eternity.
I wanted to get a job, I really did, but I was too worried about living my life behind a desk at a job that I hate. That statement would repeat over and over as I scrolled through multiple job listings. Then, when I found a job that I would consider taking, I would over think about how much I’d have to change my current lifestyle and how much stress I would be under, which would eventually lead me to not even sending in my CV.
I don’t know if it’s the fear of change, or if it’s just me being a scaredy-cat when it comes to doing something out of my comfort zone, but I am fed up with it. Literally. I just want to be able to push aside my anxiety and low self-esteem and just go out there- see the world, experience things, and live life.
Now’s the Time
Since it’s the New Year, it seems like the perfect time to start over. But if you’re not reading this during January of the New Year, it won’t matter if you do because change can happen any time at any place.
“There is no point in delaying until tomorrow when you have a chance to do them now”
You would say, “I’ll start tomorrow. I’ll look for jobs next week. I’ll wait for him to call me.” Why would you prolong something that you could do now?
If we understand what you want and we know how to get it, why do we sometimes leave it until it’s our last resort to make it happen? Perhaps for some of us, we need to get used to the idea. Perhaps it’s the fear of failure that’s keeping us from moving forward, or perhaps we’re just scared of what others might think.
Honestly, what’s stopping you from following your dreams, getting what you want, and becoming the person you’re supposed to be?
“The only thing getting in the way between you and your goals is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it” – Jordan BelfortThat’s right, it’s you.
Push Through It All
When anxiety, nerves and depression begin screaming at you and tell you that you’re not good enough, they’re being the bullies. This isn’t high school anymore, so start being the badass friend who stands up to them. There is no reason for your negative thoughts to take over. What will that bring you? It will bring you sadness and will get you nowhere in life.
Push away and ignore all that negativity and be the one to say yes to the opportunities that come your way. Say yes to your dreams, wants and goals. Belfort is right–it’s the bullshit story that you tell yourself why you can’t do it that’s getting between you and the life you deserve. So, with a kind and open heart, breathe in all that good energy, courage and confidence, and breath out fully and feel ready to take on the world.
One More Thing
When you go out there and be the badass we know you will and can be, remember to smile and be grateful each step of the way. Believe it or not, smiling and feeling thankful for how far you’ve gotten as well as the people who surround you can increase the chances of lowering that anxiety level and brightening up your mood.
Great mood + Great day = The happy life that we’ve always wanted.
You got this!
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