In any challenge that comes our way, whether it’s feeling adventurous while deciding whether to go left or right, or it’s trying to weigh the scales with a decision that could change our lives. When making the final choice, the one thing we listen to the most is our gut, our instincts, or that little voice in our heads.
How many times have you ignored your gut feeling and ended up in a situation you didn’t want to be in? No matter how much we tend to deny its impulses, in the end, our gut seems to always know what’s best. I don’t know exactly how that feeling in your belly is able to make the right choices, but I do know that if you ignore it, your decisions are often shadowed with regret. There are a few important things to consider when doubting your gut.
When Doubting Your Gut
Know The Voice
Know if it’s really your gut that’s speaking to you. It may not always literally be your gut that you feel trying to influence your choices, but it may also be that little voice in your head that’s whispering all good things to you. If your mind is saying no to something then consider the reasons why. If you’re terrified of the outcome but feel a hint of excitement then to consider the reasons of why not. Weigh the pros and cons of your whys and why not’s to clear up the negatives that are fogging up your instincts.
Get a Second Opinion
“Follow your instincts and do not let other people’s opinion of you become your opinion of yourself.” – Sarah Jessica Parker
If you still doubt whether your instincts are telling you the right things, get a second opinion. Be it your siblings, best friend, a stranger in a café, anyone. You might fear the answers you’ll get when expressing your situation to the outside world, and that’s okay. With whatever response you receive from others, whether it’s what you want to hear or not, don’t let their opinion define you. Hearing their response is an option that will give you a glimpse into a different perspective of what you’re facing. Plus it’s always a good thing to get an opinion from someone else other than yourself.
There Are No Regrets
It used to be that when a job opportunity came up, even if I was dying for a change, my mind would immediately decline it with screams of “No I don’t want to do this. I don’t have to do it, do I?”. I’d feel sick with the anxiety the thought of change stirred up. My fear of the future and anxiety took over and told me not to take on the opportunity. Thinking this was the right choice, I listened to the fear and completely pushed away any hints of a possibly good outcome. Needless to say, I ended up being filled with regret. The feeling of regret gives out a negative response when you know deep inside, you let something that could have been great slip right through your fingers.
The one thing I’ve learned from following my gut was that there were no regrets whatsoever. No matter what, the decision I made I’ve trusted.
“When I get logical and I don’t trust my instincts – That’s when I get in trouble”. – Angelina Jolie.
You know in your heart that your decision is a good one. Even if other people think that it’s not logical, so long as you understand your instinct and decision, nobody can argue against it.
So, take a cool deep breath, follow your gut and let it protect you from the bad so it can only push you towards the good.
Stay true, fabulous, and badass!
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